Finding Meaning in Sacrament Meeting: Participation and Meaning in Church (Or What Did Church Lead You to Think About) Yesterday, 6/14?

Perhaps the only true freedom that we have is the freedom of thought. We can choose how to react and what to think every day of our lives. I remembered the other day that this idea comes from Victor Frankl’s classic work, Man’s Search for Meaning. During the height of the holocaust, while trying to survive Dachau and Auschwitz, Frankl realized that how the inmates reacted to their situation — how they thought about it, made all the difference in how they survived. He claimed that those that found meaning in their suffering, that is, they suffered and then decided to react in a positive way, they did better.

Of course, we don’t really suffer in Church—not anything like what Frankl experienced. But the principle that Frankl discovered is still useful. We can choose how we react to what happens. We can find meaning in almost anything that is taught, said or that merely happens in Church, regardless of whether that meaning was intended by others. We don’t have to passively take whatever is given us. We are free to choose how we react.

So, what are you thinking in reaction to what happens in Church?

In these posts I am trying to suggest that each of us can have better experiences at Church if we take responsibility for our experiences, and if we are open to learning from what happens by pondering it — by thinking about it in many different ways. We can choose to learn and benefit from what happens regardless of whether it fits our perception of what is “good.” Thinking about our reactions and what we understand allows for revelation and for better understanding.

In this vein, I like the statement that President Hugh B. Brown made in a 1969 BYU devotional, President Hugh B. Brown declared that the Church is “not so much concerned with whether your thoughts are orthodox or heterodox as we are that you shall have thoughts.” We should be carefully considering what we hear at Church, regardless of whether what we heard is right or wrong, orthodox or heterodox. 

A lot of our thought depends on how we look at it. It is not different from what many artists figure out—they understand that how you see the  world before you is more important than what you see. You might call it ‘active listening’ or shifting perspective. It just means that you see differently. And seeing differently reveals a different world.

In my case, I tend to focus narrowly, thinking about groups of words or sentences, sometimes taking them out of context and thinking about what they say, even if the speaker didn’t intend what I heard. It’s not at all like what we’re taught in school, where the focus is on understanding accurately and completely what the speaker or text says. Its about pulling out useful or inspiring thoughts in spite of what was said.

So, if you aren’t thinking this way, maybe try it next Sunday, or the next time you are in a class or meeting. If you have already thoughts inspired by what happened at church, what are they? How did you react to what happened in Church yesterday? What did you notice? Did you end up thinking differently? Do you think your reactions were what they should be? Were they looking for what God had to tell you? Did your reactions make things better?

This is the latest invitation for reactions to local meetings, continuing a series of weekly posts that started with my post on September 25th about how we receive what happens in Church meetings—sermons, lessons and anything else—and enter a conversation with them, magnifying what was said or adding what we think. In these posts I’m asking us all to think about how we listen and receive what happens at Church. If we only listen for mistakes, or things that bother us, what does that say about us? Is it most important to criticize others? Or to try to change ourselves?

The point here is that no matter how poorly prepared the speaker or teacher is, or no matter how what happens triggers us, or is objectively or doctrinally wrong, we can still find elements in what is said and what happens that inspires and edifies us. Even if church meetings aren’t conducted in a way that reaches us, we can take responsibility and find a way to feel the spirit.

So please, write down reactions and thoughts to what happened in Church. You might keep your own ‘spiritual journal’, or, if you like, you can post your reactions below. I’m adding my own reactions and thoughts as a comment to this post — instead of as a part of this post, because my reactions aren’t any better than anyone else’s.

Let me emphasize that this is NOT a place to criticize what is wrong with church or your fellow congregants. The point is to post what you learned because of what happened at Church or how that led you to think. It’s about the good things we can get out of Church, not the negative things that disturbed or upset us. It doesn’t have to be orthodox, traditional or even on topic.

If you like, make your response in the format, “They said or did this, and I said or thought that.” Even the things you dislike the most can be turned into lessons for what the gospel teaches we should do.

My hope is that these reactions serve as an example of a better way to treat what happens at Church instead of the perennial complaints about speaker or teacher preparation or ability, or complaints that the Church should do things differently.


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One response to “Finding Meaning in Sacrament Meeting: Participation and Meaning in Church (Or What Did Church Lead You to Think About) Yesterday, 6/14?”

  1. Here’s a few of my thoughts in reaction to what I experienced yesterday (6/14) in Church:

    • One of the talks in Church was about stewardship. The speaker defined it as taking care of things that you DO NOT own. That latter part of the definition really got me thinking —— why is it that ownership changes our actions so much? Sometimes we don’t seem to care much at all for the things we own, and other times we take excessive care, as if we are worshiping them. In contrast, when we don’t own a thing, we seem completely disconnected from it. Why do some people invest hours in their cars or houses, making every detail perfect, but neglect their relationships with neighbors or responsibilities to their neighborhoods? What should we be responsible for? How do we keep our cares from being excessive, and invest in the things that have spiritual meaning?
    • Oddly enough, when another speaker talked about the storms on the Sea of Galilee (which, they said, arise suddenly and take even experienced sailors by surprise), my mind went to the Gordon Lightfoot song “The Wreck of the Edmund Fitzgerald”. I suppose each of us have texts that are so familiar they are nearly memorized, and have such meaning that they are nearly scripture. I wonder if we ever consider what texts are in our minds this way — what are the foundational, quasi-scriptural texts of our lives?
    • One speaker said something about how they never completely understand what the Lord’s plan for their life is. That’s an interesting thought—we can’t really see the whole picture of our lives, even years later. We just don’t have the perspective, and we never will in this life. It’s what Paul meant in 1 Cor. 13 about “seeing through a glass darkly”. We don’t have clarity—ever—about anything! Uncertainty is this life.
    • And in Elders Quorum, when someone was talking about King Saul in the Bible, they described his attitude when he first met Samuel, who soon anointed him King. The speaker described Saul as thinking “I don’t want to be King. I just want to find my donkeys.” Sometimes life is like that — we’re doing the mundane and life expects us to do the extraordinary. Sometimes our reaction is because we don’t want that responsibility, and other times it’s because we can’t see the unusual opportunity in front of us. I’m quite sure I’ve reacted both ways at different points.

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