Is inattention a kind of addiction? If we can’t focus on what we want to, is it because we can’t help focusing on something else? Can we substitute an “addiction” to something positive — maybe actually thinking about what’s happening through the lens of the gospel?

Addictions are sometimes physical, leading to urges that show up with physical symptoms. Other times, the addictions are more like compulsions, heavily ingrained habits that are hard to break, even though there isn’t any physical symptom. If the habit is good, should we maybe try to maintain it, even if its like an addiction?

I think that good habits, even if they are heavily ingrained in how we act, yield good results. I’ve purposely gotten into the habit of using the word “please” when I’m talking to our Alexa speaker—because I want that habit to pass on to my interactions with actual human beings. I want it to be an ingrained part of how I act. Maybe that’s not as valuable as something that I choose to do in the moment, but I think its certainly better than failing to say “please” when I should.

Likewise, I want to cultivate good habits with how I mentally act when listening and experiencing church. I want to train my thoughts to automatically use gospel teachings, perspectives and ways of reacting in my life. I want to approach what happens with humility, seeking to learn something, and not with criticism that those ‘in charge’ are doing it wrong. I want to be inspired and uplifted by how I interpret, how I think about and how I receive what happened in Church.

So, what are you thinking in reaction to what happens in Church?

In these posts I am trying to suggest that each of us can have better experiences at Church if we take responsibility for our experiences, and if we are open to learning from what happens by pondering it — by thinking about it in many different ways. We can choose to learn and benefit from what happens regardless of whether it fits our perception of what is “good.” Thinking about our reactions and what we understand allows for revelation and for better understanding.

In this vein, I like the statement that President Hugh B. Brown made in a 1969 BYU devotional, President Hugh B. Brown declared that the Church is “not so much concerned with whether your thoughts are orthodox or heterodox as we are that you shall have thoughts.” We should be carefully considering what we hear at Church, regardless of whether what we heard is right or wrong, orthodox or heterodox. 

A lot of our thought depends on how we look at it. It is not different from what many artists figure out—they understand that how you see the  world before you is more important than what you see. You might call it ‘active listening’ or shifting perspective. It just means that you see differently. And seeing differently reveals a different world.

In my case, I tend to focus narrowly, thinking about groups of words or sentences, sometimes taking them out of context and thinking about what they say, even if the speaker didn’t intend what I heard. It’s not at all like what we’re taught in school, where the focus is on understanding accurately and completely what the speaker or text says. Its about pulling out useful or inspiring thoughts in spite of what was said.

So, if you aren’t thinking this way, maybe try it next Sunday, or the next time you are in a class or meeting. If you have already thoughts inspired by what happened at church, what are they? How did you react to what happened in Church yesterday? What did you notice? Did you end up thinking differently? Do you think your reactions were what they should be? Were they looking for what God had to tell you? Did your reactions make things better?

This is the latest invitation for reactions to local meetings, continuing a series of weekly posts that started with my post on September 25th about how we receive what happens in Church meetings—sermons, lessons and anything else—and enter a conversation with them, magnifying what was said or adding what we think. In these posts I’m asking us all to think about how we listen and receive what happens at Church. If we only listen for mistakes, or things that bother us, what does that say about us? Is it most important to criticize others? Or to try to change ourselves?

The point here is that no matter how poorly prepared the speaker or teacher is, or no matter how what happens triggers us, or is objectively or doctrinally wrong, we can still find elements in what is said and what happens that inspires and edifies us. Even if church meetings aren’t conducted in a way that reaches us, we can take responsibility and find a way to feel the spirit.