Phoning it in: How Did You Participate in Church (Or What Did Church Lead You to Think About) Yesterday, 5/17?

Are you distracted in Church? I look around and often it seems like distraction is a significant problem. If its not kids (yours or someone else’s), its your phone, which might well be called a portable distraction machine — if, like most people, you can’t get through a meal without picking up your phone, why would you be able to get through church without it?

I must admit that I use my phone in church a lot — these days its where I take notes of what is happening—what in Church I’m reacting to and thinking about. And the phone often presents to me news items or other notifications to distract me from the talks or what I should be thinking about. But I’ve found that when I concentrate, and focus on what is happening around me, and especially on what is being said, and then think about my reactions to that, I have plenty of distraction in my own head—distraction that keeps me involved in Church.

This focus starts on an individual level. If we assume that there is value in the way the meeting is presented to us (and I assume, that you aren’t a leader and therefore don’t have the ability to control what happens in the meeting), if we approach meetings with humility, we will learn something, and we will be inspired and uplifted by how we interpret, how we thought about and how we received what happened in Church.

So, what are you thinking in reaction to what happens in Church?

In these posts I am trying to suggest that each of us can have better experiences at Church if we take responsibility for our experiences, and if we are open to learning from what happens by pondering it — by thinking about it in many different ways. We can choose to learn and benefit from what happens regardless of whether it fits our perception of what is “good.” Thinking about our reactions and what we understand allows for revelation and for better understanding.

In this vein, I like the statement that President Hugh B. Brown made in a 1969 BYU devotional, President Hugh B. Brown declared that the Church is “not so much concerned with whether your thoughts are orthodox or heterodox as we are that you shall have thoughts.” We should be carefully considering what we hear at Church, regardless of whether what we heard is right or wrong, orthodox or heterodox. 

A lot of our thought depends on how we look at it. It is not different from what many artists figure out—they understand that how you see the  world before you is more important than what you see. You might call it ‘active listening’ or shifting perspective. It just means that you see differently. And seeing differently reveals a different world.

In my case, I tend to focus narrowly, thinking about groups of words or sentences, sometimes taking them out of context and thinking about what they say, even if the speaker didn’t intend what I heard. It’s not at all like what we’re taught in school, where the focus is on understanding accurately and completely what the speaker or text says. Its about pulling out useful or inspiring thoughts in spite of what was said.

So, if you aren’t thinking this way, maybe try it next Sunday, or the next time you are in a class or meeting. If you have already thoughts inspired by what happened at church, what are they? How did you react to what happened in Church yesterday? What did you notice? Did you end up thinking differently? Do you think your reactions were what they should be? Were they looking for what God had to tell you? Did your reactions make things better?

This is the latest invitation for reactions to local meetings, continuing a series of weekly posts that started with my post on September 25th about how we receive what happens in Church meetings—sermons, lessons and anything else—and enter a conversation with them, magnifying what was said or adding what we think. In these posts I’m asking us all to think about how we listen and receive what happens at Church. If we only listen for mistakes, or things that bother us, what does that say about us? Is it most important to criticize others? Or to try to change ourselves?

The point here is that no matter how poorly prepared the speaker or teacher is, or no matter how what happens triggers us, or is objectively or doctrinally wrong, we can still find elements in what is said and what happens that inspires and edifies us. Even if church meetings aren’t conducted in a way that reaches us, we can take responsibility and find a way to feel the spirit.

So please, write down reactions and thoughts to what happened in Church. You might keep your own ‘spiritual journal’, or, if you like, you can post your reactions below. I’m adding my own reactions and thoughts as a comment to this post — instead of as a part of this post, because my reactions aren’t any better than anyone else’s.

Let me emphasize that this is NOT a place to criticize what is wrong with church or your fellow congregants. The point is to post what you learned because of what happened at Church or how that led you to think. It’s about the good things we can get out of Church, not the negative things that disturbed or upset us. It doesn’t have to be orthodox, traditional or even on topic.

If you like, make your response in the format, “They said or did this, and I said or thought that.” Even the things you dislike the most can be turned into lessons for what the gospel teaches we should do.

My hope is that these reactions serve as an example of a better way to treat what happens at Church instead of the perennial complaints about speaker or teacher preparation or ability, or complaints that the Church should do things differently.


Comments

3 responses to “Phoning it in: How Did You Participate in Church (Or What Did Church Lead You to Think About) Yesterday, 5/17?”

  1. Here’s some of how I found the Gospel in what happened in Church (5/17):

    • One of the speakers in Sacrament Meeting repeated the now common statement that charity is a spiritual gift. I’m not sure what this means exactly. Gifts sound like things that are given to us, that we don’t have to put effort into developing. But I find that I have to work to develop these things. This seems more like the desire to develop charity is the gift, and its something we need to develop.
    • Another speaker quoted a general authority saying essentially that the purpose of this life is to change ourselves so that we will want to be in heaven—so the judgment after this life isn’t about keeping those who are unworthy out of heaven, but about changing hearts so that people want to be in heaven. I like that idea, and I wonder if the same kind of thing might apply to getting into our wards and branches. Are we creating places that those who want to be in heaven will also want to be, or where we are training people to want to be in heaven? Are we creating welcoming places? Where people will want to learn these things? This kind of complicates what a congregation is about, doesn’t it?
    • Apparently the Quechua word for repentance essentially means “change of mindset”. Sounds very different in some ways — not as much guilt.
    • The teacher in Sunday School, talking about Moses being translated, called it “death with an asterisk”. LOL.
  2. I was definitely distracted by my phone during church this Sunday, but so was my whole ward: we got notified of a tornado warning during the intermediate hymn! We went to the gym, waited for the worst of the storm to pass, then went to Sunday School. Our poor high councilor never got to speak.

    The lesson focused on having a “face-to-face” relationship with God like Moses had. Good stuff. That got me thinking about the alternative: The Israelites basically told Moses, “You go talk to God and tell us what he says. We don’t dare talk to him.” Then what they got instead was a bunch of rules. I suspect that for a lot of us, too much of our relationship with God consists of following rules in the hopes of pleasing him rather than actually getting to know him.

  3. I use my phone continuously during most of Church. I send thank you notes with my notes to each speaker or class leader. Almost always get a positive response. I have been doing it long enough that the regulars all know what I am doing on my phone.

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