I’ll be attending a wedding later today. The couple will be married in the church, and a new baby will be joining them somewhat sooner than later. For a faithful LDS family, this is difficult.
I recognize that weddings are happy occasions. There is joy in the creation of a new family and the celebration of love. But for Mormons, there is also sadness that the wedding is not sealed in the temple and is thus only a marriage for time; our hope is that this marriage is the first step toward an eternal, temple marriage.
When I see the new couple, I will tell them “congratulations.” They love each other and are getting married; best wishes are in order.
My question is what I should say to the couple’s parents. At similar times in the past, I’ve said “congratulations” and felt like an idiot. “Congratulations” seems a bit trite, given the range of emotions this occasion has caused. “Sorry” is totally inappropriate for a wedding, though I know tears of sadness and pain have been shed the last few weeks. I’ve been feeling tongue-tied for days.
What would you say?