{"id":34953,"date":"2016-03-29T08:23:36","date_gmt":"2016-03-29T13:23:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/timesandseasons.org\/?p=34953"},"modified":"2016-04-04T07:04:13","modified_gmt":"2016-04-04T12:04:13","slug":"guest-post-returning-with-honor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/timesandseasons.org\/index.php\/2016\/03\/guest-post-returning-with-honor\/","title":{"rendered":"Guest Post: Returning Early with Honor"},"content":{"rendered":"

This guest post was written by Lauren Baldwin, based on the paper she presented at the recent Association for Mormon Letters conference.\u00a0Lauren is a professional writing student at BYU-I. After the 2012 mission age change, she was part of the first group of nineteen-year-old sister missionaries to serve in the Kentucky Louisville Mission. She works in technical communication and sometimes writes creative non-fiction on rainy days.<\/em><\/p>\n

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\u201cAs goes your mission, so goes your life\u201d was a popular adage I heard often during my time in the Kentucky Louisville mission, where I served full-time from March 2013 to September 2014. I loved my time as a missionary but was somewhat haunted by this quote. Does the quality of your missionary service really determine success for the rest of your life? The fact that the saying is founded in church leader Jeffrey R. Holland\u2019s statement about missionaries’ scripture study time only worsened my fears: \u201cyou tell me how those hours go, and I will tell you how. . . your mission and your life will go.\u201d<\/span>1<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n

I served my eighteen months honorably and transitioned out of missionary life with relative ease, as did most of the returned missionaries I knew. But friends of mine who weren\u2019t able to complete their missions seemed unable to reassume their lives as easily. I watched previously happy, successful young adults enter a social, mental, emotional, and spiritual tailspin that seemed to bewilder and incapacitate them.<\/span><\/p>\n

Inspired by their struggle, I turned the focus of my academic study toward the cause of early returned missionaries\u2019 struggle. I wanted to find the root of their struggle and a method of speeding their healing process. I began my research with a rhetorical analysis of early returned missionary narratives on the support blog www.missionarieshomeearly.com<\/a>. In the course of this analysis, I found that the words early returned missionaries use to describe themselves reveal a radical negative evolution of identity from the time missionaries began to struggle in the field\u2014in every narrative I read, at some point the missionary refers to himself or herself as a failure. But I also discovered something wholly unexpected: blogging can play a significant role in helping missionaries reject the identity of failure and lay a foundation for claiming a new, positive identity as member of the church valuable to building God\u2019s kingdom on earth. <\/span><\/p>\n

When they make the choice to serve full-time missions, LDS youth adopt an identity that is new, complex, and intense. Early returned missionary Sierra shares the significant changes she made to her life on missionarieshomeearly.com: \u201cAs missionaries we prepares ourselves in every way possible. Physically, mentally and spiritually to go and serve for 18 months or two years. We quit our jobs, put school on hold, and tell our loved ones goodbye, all so we can go out and share something that we love so much with others.\u201d<\/span>2<\/sup><\/a> Sierra\u2019s explanation provides key terms that tell how missionaries view themselves: \u201cWe prepare\u201d indicates capability; \u201cWe quit our [pursuits]\u2026and tell our loved ones goodbye\u201d indicates that they sacrifice their own physical and emotional wants; \u201cwe go out\u201d implies work and determination; and \u201cwe share something that we love so much with others\u201d implies selflessness and passion. After this description of a missionary\u2019s identity, Sierra makes this statement: \u201cand then you\u2019re told you won\u2019t be finishing it\u2026 I felt rejected and unwanted.\u201d To have service formally discontinued is to have one\u2019s sacrifice of self formally discarded, as if it were inadequate. This rejection causes a flood of negative feelings and self-doubt, which narratives indicate is very destructive to any positive identity the missionary previously held. Whether a missionary\u2019s early dispatch is due to bad behavior or a more minor issue like poor health, discontinued service leaves him or her stripped of previous positive identifiers and floundering. <\/span><\/p>\n

But Sierra is not alone in this struggle. Other missionaries, who have fought and often won personal struggles with incomplete missionary service, want to provide resources to those in the same position. According to missionarieshomeearly.com\u2019s \u201cAbout\u201d page, the editor of created the website specifically for this purpose: <\/span><\/p>\n

I want LDS early return missionaries to view themselves as game changers and fully capable members of the church and of their communities. Recently I returned home early from my LDS full time mission. I was called to serve in the Washington D.C. South mission, but due to mental health challenges I only lasted in the MTC for approximately three weeks before being sent home. Coming home provided me with some of the most challenging experiences of my life. Not only did I face feelings of failure, abandonment, and fear but I was also put in a place in which I had no plans; because, truly I wasn’t supposed to be there for about two more years. <\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

The site creator’s purpose is to help missionaries identify themselves as \u201cGame changers and fully capable members of the church and their communities\u201d rather than abandoned, fearful, purposeless failures, and his method is to create a space where blog posts from many authors work together to accomplish this task. According to this author<\/a>, the main benefit of telling an early return story is the opportunity to serve others by sharing knowledge and experience. This motive echoes Sierra\u2019s previous statement about a missionary\u2019s identity: \u201cAs missionaries we prepare ourselves\u2026 all so we can go out and share\u2026with others.\u201d As these missionaries share their stories for the benefit of others, they are either consciously or unconsciously reclaiming the positive self-perception that they held as a successful missionary by acting like a successful missionary once again. As they perform actions that reinforced a positive self-image in the past, they forge a positive self-image in the present. These actions feed off of one another, creating a positive feedback loop that ultimately results in a new identity. These are the first steps toward overcoming feelings of failure. <\/span><\/p>\n

The opportunities to bear testimony of the Church and offer service to other early returned missionaries are critical benefits of blogging, and missionaries nearly always end their narratives with these elements, accompanied by expressions of hope that the blog will help others and offers for further support through personal contact. <\/span><\/p>\n

As early returned missionaries blog, their words reveal that their self-image transforms from \u201cfailure,\u201d \u201cunwanted,\u201d \u201cpurposeless,\u201d and \u201crejected\u201d to \u201cloved,\u201d \u201cwilling,\u201d \u201cnot abandoned,\u201d and \u201cuseful.\u201d Support blogs for early returned missionaries provide a powerful tool for performing selfless, missionary-like actions which allow them to take small steps toward reclaiming the positive identity they once held. As missionaries choose to react to their early return by creating positive identities through missionary-like actions, their self-images grow dramatically more positive. By providing opportunities to share testimony and serve, missionary support blogs provide a powerful resource for healing to missionaries whose identity has shriveled under cultural pressure and feelings of failure. Joshua writes, \u201cI don’t know what I was supposed to learn, but I have a lot more compassion for those who cannot serve missions or come home early for any reason. I know God hasn’t completely abandoned me, though I don’t have any idea what He has in store\u2026 even though I don’t understand, I have faith that one day, this will all be made right.\u201d Ryan writes, \u201cMy advice to other early return missionaries like me is that the Lord will still use you to hasten the work in another way; you just need to be willing.\u201d Sierra writes, \u201cIf you are a missionary who came home early or anyone who overcame the odds during something really hard I’d love to hear your experience. If you have any questions or comments I’d love to hear from you. I feel so blessed and honored by the response I received from my first post.\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n

What does all of this mean for the church members supporting early returned missionaries? Understanding two principles is essential to providing helpful support: <\/span><\/p>\n

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  1. An early returned missionary has been stripped of his or her identity and has, most likely, assumed the label of \u2018failure.\u2019 This new label is probably unconscious, which only makes the missionary feel more frustrated because he doesn\u2019t know the origin of the many negative feelings he is experiencing. <\/span><\/li>\n
  2. An early returned missionary needs to build a new positive identity that is separate from missionary identity but connected to it; an identity that honors the time of service but is not dependent upon it. Know that blogging and other activities that allow early returned missionaries to share testimony, serve others, and perform other missionary-like actions can help kick-start this process.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    With this understanding, members can create circumstances that provide returned missionaries the opportunity to take action and begin their healing journey. As we do these things, we can help these young adults reject the self-identifying terms \u201cfailure,\u201d \u201cunwanted,\u201d \u201cpurposeless,\u201d and \u201crejected\u201d and replace them with a new identity where they are \u201cloved,\u201d \u201cwilling,\u201d \u201cnot abandoned,\u201d and \u201cuseful.\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n

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    1<\/a> Holland, Jeffrey.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span>Seminar for New Mission Presidents.<\/i><\/span>\u00a0<\/i><\/span>The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, Jun. 2011. Web.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span>9 December 2015.\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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    2<\/a> To avoid distracting focus from quotations\u2019 contents, I have chosen not to acknowledge language errors with \u201c[sic]\u201d or other in-text inserts.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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