{"id":2103,"date":"2005-03-23T18:11:05","date_gmt":"2005-03-23T23:11:05","guid":{"rendered":"\/?p=2103"},"modified":"2009-01-20T12:52:33","modified_gmt":"2009-01-20T16:52:33","slug":"eight-not-so-simple-rules","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/timesandseasons.org\/index.php\/2005\/03\/eight-not-so-simple-rules\/","title":{"rendered":"Eight Not-So-Simple Rules . . ."},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Thought LDS dating rules were draconian?   &#8216;<a href=\"http:\/\/www.houstonpress.com\/issues\/2005-01-27\/news\/feature_print.html\">Courtship<\/a>&#8216; is the trendy new (old) thing among Christian fundamentalists.  <!--more-->Here are the basics:<\/p>\n<p>(1) No dating.<br \/>\n(2) No dating-type-activities.<br \/>\n(3) Courting involves only marriagable man (i.e., financially capable of supporting a family).<br \/>\n(4) When a man is interested in a woman, he contacts her father.<br \/>\n(5) There are <em>interviews<\/em> of the man by the woman&#8217;s father.<br \/>\n(6) The courtship-ees then spend time together along with their families.<br \/>\n(7) Only late in the process do they talk alone together.<br \/>\n(8) Some will kiss once when they are engaged, some will have no physical contact until after they are wed.<\/p>\n<p>So:   Would LDS youth be better off &#8216;courting&#8217; than dating?  I think the answer is &#8216;generally, yes&#8217;.  I have seen a few couples push the boundaries of physical affection more than they should.  I have seen (and I have been) a starry-eyed young woman ready to marry for all the wrong reasons to a young man who would have <em>never<\/em> gotten out alive from an interview with my father. Probably the only element of courting that would need to be tweaked for the Saints is that we don&#8217;t expect a man to be able to support a family before he weds.<\/p>\n<p>Anyone want to talk me down?  Are there any advantages to dating that would be lost by courting?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Thought LDS dating rules were draconian? &#8216;Courtship&#8216; is the trendy new (old) thing among Christian fundamentalists.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1,54],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2103","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-corn","category-mormon-life"],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/timesandseasons.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2103","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/timesandseasons.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/timesandseasons.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/timesandseasons.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/timesandseasons.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2103"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/timesandseasons.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2103\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6701,"href":"https:\/\/timesandseasons.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2103\/revisions\/6701"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/timesandseasons.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2103"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/timesandseasons.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2103"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/timesandseasons.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2103"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}