{"id":1640,"date":"2004-11-23T23:13:25","date_gmt":"2004-11-24T04:13:25","guid":{"rendered":"\/?p=1640"},"modified":"2004-11-23T23:14:57","modified_gmt":"2004-11-24T04:14:57","slug":"just-say-no","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/timesandseasons.org\/index.php\/2004\/11\/just-say-no\/","title":{"rendered":"Just Say No"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>So my visiting teachers came over today.  I love them; they take good care of me.  One of them told me that they were asked on Sunday (I wasn&#8217;t in Church this week:  sniffly kids) to check in with their visiting teachees and see how they are doing in meeting the challenge that the ward has set for the opening of the San Antonio Temple.<!--more--><\/p>\n<p>I don&#8217;t remember precisely what the challenge was, but it consisted of several goals (like preparing names for the Temple, having a FHE on the Temple, etc.) to complete before the dedication.<\/p>\n<p>The reason that I don&#8217;t remember precisely what the challenge is is because we decided not to do it.<\/p>\n<p>And that&#8217;s what I told my visiting teacher.  That we weren&#8217;t participating.  That we had made a decision not to do it.<\/p>\n<p>It took her a minute to gather her thoughts.  And she said, &#8220;Well.  Thanks for letting us know where you stand.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>It pretty much killed the conversation.<\/p>\n<p>This has made me think:<\/p>\n<p>(1)  If I had stammered something about working on it more next month, that would have been OK.  Passive aggressive works well in most Church settings.   But what I did isn&#8217;t OK.  Why is that?  <\/p>\n<p>(2)  I hate, just detest, the idea of someone else setting a goal for me.  I occassionally set goals for myself, but have never, ever played along when someone else tries this.  Is this wrong?<\/p>\n<p>(3) Sometimes I am amazed at how absolutely MANDATORY every single thing related to Church is.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>So my visiting teachers came over today. I love them; they take good care of me. One of them told me that they were asked on Sunday (I wasn&#8217;t in Church this week: sniffly kids) to check in with their visiting teachees and see how they are doing in meeting the challenge that the ward has set for the opening of the San Antonio Temple.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1640","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-corn"],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/timesandseasons.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1640","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/timesandseasons.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/timesandseasons.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/timesandseasons.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/timesandseasons.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1640"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/timesandseasons.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1640\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/timesandseasons.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1640"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/timesandseasons.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1640"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/timesandseasons.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1640"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}