Posts Tagged ‘ Chastity, Sex, and Marriage ’

What is the Religious Reason for Gender Differences in Orgasmic Tendency and Ability?

October 1, 2004 | 70 comments

We believe that we were created by God, in His image (or the image of Heavenly Mother, for women). And we believe that our physical bodies are an important part of our eternal progress, a part that will be with us for eternity. As pointed out in an earlier thread, we have strong religious reasons to believe in the sacred nature of our bodies as created. The significance of bodies raises an interesting question: What is the religious reason for the gendered differences in ability to experience orgasm? Read more »

Chastity and Terrorism

September 16, 2004 | 85 comments

What are the root causes of terrorism? Poverty (problem: most terrorists seem to come from middle class or upper middle class Middle Eastern families). U.S. hegemony (at least in part). Embarrassment and rage at the decline of Islamic civilization (almost certainly). Another recent candidate has emerged: Chastity. Read more »

Billboards against P()rn

September 8, 2004 | 8 comments

Driving back from Provo to Portland let us see the occasional p()rn billboards that are now standard on American highways. They aren’t the Golden Arches, but there’s more every year. We also saw an anti-p()rn billboard. It said something like “No Adult Stores in Our Town!” Next to it was a windowless cement-block structure with “Adult Store” in big, aged letters. The wife and I were reminded of South Bend. The more squalid section of South Bend has a few dirty strip bars, with anti-p()rn billboards alongside, stuff like “Sleazy shops ruin this neighborhood.” Read more »

The Spirit of Elijah and the Victorian Family

August 30, 2004 | 34 comments

Priesthood and Relief Society met together yesterday for a fairly exciting family history discussion/call to arms/how-to. We quoted Malachi, of course: Elijah the prophet . . . shall turn the heart of fathers to their children, and the heart of the children to their fathers . . . . We affirmed that this means more than templework. We agreed that temple work is key but that the spirit of Elijah includes learning to love ancestors by learning about their lives. Someone mentioned the widening in genealogical interest post-1836 as evidence of the spirit of Elijah. A brother mentioned the... Read more »

California Ruling

August 12, 2004 | 19 comments

And now back to our regularly scheduled, “all gay marriage, all the time” programming: California high court voids same-sex marriages. UPDATE: Decision text here (via NY Times). Read more »

SSM Update

August 9, 2004 | 83 comments

Kay Hymowitz at the Manhattan Journal weighs in on SSM. She agrees with many of us that the key issue is whether or not marriage has any connection to procreation/childrearing. She concedes that recent trends have tended to separate them but sees this as a decline to be deplored and reversed rather than furthered. She reflects extensively on the meaning of republican marriage, as understood by the Founders. This is the most interesting part. Were I, alas, a member of the vanished leisure classes I would certainly parse some time away from the poetry and polo-playing to learn from... Read more »

Are Mormon Apologists Vituperative Enough?

August 6, 2004 | 6 comments

We have a confessed apologist around: Ben Spackman . While we’re in a confessional mood I’ll admit to being uncomfortable with a lot of apologetics. Like most Mormons, in person I am conflict-averse. Why, just last Sunday when the entire Elders Quorum agreed that following traditions without knowing the reasons for them was foolish, my inner Burke started to boil but I sat on my hands. That’s how conflict averse I am. So when I read FARMS or FAIR or other apologists I sometimes get uncomfortable with the tone, even if they are responding to, really, intolerable filth. They... Read more »

Robert Frost, The Silken Tent

August 3, 2004 | 56 comments

Robert Frost has a poem that should speak to us, with how marriage-minded and homeward looking we are. Know it by it’s first line, “She is as in a field a silken tent.” The woman he describes is a woman who has filled her duties and obligations with love enough that they scarcely seem duties anymore. A tent is kept up, not tied down, by its various cords, and so she. She is “loosely bound By countless silken ties of love and thought . . . And only by one’s going slightly taut In the capriciousness of summer air... Read more »

Outing Mikulski and Struggle over FMA

July 12, 2004 | 28 comments

Hard core gay activists or homosexualists or gay fundamentalists or what you will have threateded to out opponents of SSM. They’ve accused a couple of staffers of keeping their homosexuality in the closet and now they’ve accused Senator Barbara Mikulski (D-MD), who has only tepidly supported SSM. Read more »

Limits of the Law of Chastity

July 9, 2004 | 85 comments

Wendy’s comment in the latest SSM thread provoked an interesting discussion between my wife and I yesterday. Wendy wrote: Is same-sex kissing a sin? What about same-sex flirting and dating? Can a same-sex couple live together, love each other, come to church holding hands and sit together in the chapel, hold callings and be okay church-wise, as long as they don’t have sex? This comment relates to the broader issue: What exactly does the law of chastity prohibit? Read more »

A Practical Matter

July 9, 2004 | 37 comments

I’ve been trying to put my finger on what is so troubling to me about some of the recent discussions of abortion. Aside from the distressingly obvious lack of female participants in the discussion, I think the thing that makes me twitchiest is the discussion of whether or not rape victims should be *allowed* to hear from a compassionate bishop that abortion is an acceptable course. I’ve been thinking a lot about how a bishop could provide appropriate and helpful counsel in that situation, and I have to say that I think the odds are stacked against him, even... Read more »

The Lost Generation of Aborted Americans

June 30, 2004 | 20 comments

OpinionJournal concludes that abortion took 12 million potential voters out of the citizenry for the 2000 elections, 18 million potential voters in this election, and 25 million voters out of the citizenry for 2008. I suppose one could run similar calculations for everything. How many bloggers were aborted? How many converts has the gospel missed out on? Quite a few. True, it’s not as simple as just totalling up the abortions, since some would use contraception otherwise, but still quite a few. Read more »

Gay Marriage Links

June 29, 2004 | 8 comments

Joshua Livestro on Dutch Marriage: He reports that only a small fraction of gay couples have actually married and that heterosexual marriage rates have sunk while illegitimacy rates have risen. Susan Shell on the Liberal Case Against Gay Marriage: a society without the means of formally acknowledging, through marriage, the fact of generation, like one without the means of formally acknowledging, through funeral rites, the fact of death, seems impoverished in the most basic of human terms. Maggie Gallagher on Mitt Romney and Massachussetts: In birth... Read more »

Lessons on Sex and Morality, from the Book of Esther

June 16, 2004 | 25 comments

The Old Testament gives us all sorts of strange stories. One that I’ve been thinking about lately is the delightfully wacky book of Esther. In particular, I’ve been wondering about the lessons on sex and morality that we can learn from this book. And I find the answers a little surprising, to say the least. We’ll start with lesson one from Esther: Use sex to get power. Read more »

Church-going as Wedding Feast

June 7, 2004 | 2 comments

A brother at church said that we have a marriage model of church. Geography commits us to one particular group of people and we all give lay service within that group even as it changes. One doesn’t keep looking around for fulfillment, one does one’s duty here. He has a point, of course. For one the Bishop is very much the mother, presumed to be omnicompetent, always on duty, always available for sympathy and counseling, and always tolerated with a sort of amused forbearance. The father too. The brother then inverted the comparison. The Book of Mormon, he said,... Read more »

The Pleasures of Board and Bed, or Gluttony and Concupiscence

June 5, 2004 | 22 comments

I found an article on aging in a waiting room magazine. Some scientists, it turns out, put mice and other creatures on tight rations, for ineffable scientific reasons, only to discover that the mice et al. lived longer and healthier. The side effects were small stature and, here the article sounded a grim note, diminished sex drive. No one knows how whether Man gets similar health benefits—studies are underway!—but a few souls have put themselves on the straitened dietary regimen in advance of the science. The writer talked to them about their efforts. They took him through their schedule.... Read more »

The University of Chicago Prys into the Bedroom

May 22, 2004 | 2 comments

The University of Chicago has conducted an extensive investigation into the sex lives of Chicagoans. This isn’t some Kinsleyesque voyeurism into the mechanical details, but an investigation of the social mechanics–who whom? in what kind of relationship? The fruits of the survey (served here with a little whipped polemic on top) include two items of particular interest: women have happier relationships when they know their men through church or extended family, and women have happier relationships if they marry young. Let’s not kid ourselves that we Saints have all our marriage customs right, but maybe we have them less... Read more »

Marrying and Giving in Marriage

May 18, 2004 | 34 comments

In the days that were before the flood they were eating and drinking, marrying and giving in marriage, until the day that Noe entered into the ark. When I was young this struck me as incongruous. I thought marriage was a good thing, but these verses seemed to associate it with the unrighteousness of times when the wickedness of men had become great in the earth; and every man was lifted up in the imagination of the thoughts of his heart, being only evil continually. Why would marriage be a feature of fallen times? Why would people keep marrying... Read more »

Yet Another SSM Post

April 29, 2004 | 33 comments

Somehow I ended up on the official Church website for UK and Ireland and found this on the top of the page: “The Gender Recognition Bill, which is currently being considered in the House of Commons will allow a man to become a woman in law (and vice versa). This means transsexuals will be able to marry in their assumed sex. The legislation also makes it a criminal offence to disclose the birth sex of a transsexual. We stress that this Bill poses a real threat to religious freedom and we oppose it because we believe it runs counter... Read more »

Eat, drink and fling.

April 22, 2004 | 15 comments

Some of the plausible and specifically Christian arguments for socially sanctioned gay unions–I think Kaimi’s advanced it on this board–is that an irreducible core of the homosexually inclined simply do not have the choice to be chaste. Under the circumstances, the argument goes, perhaps its best that society encourage them to refrain from the sin of promiscuity even if they can’t be discouraged from the sin of homosex-uality. Now Gordon has found a variant of the same argument: society should accept and discipline promiscuity into ‘polyamory,’ because some people simply do not have the choice to be faithful. I’m... Read more »


April 22, 2004 | 10 comments

As is often the case, Matt Evans was way ahead of the curve when he discussed polyamory back in January with the post, “The Conservative Case for Group and Sibling Marriage.” But here is a new angle (at least to me): some Unitarians are now actively promoting polyamory. The money quotation: It’s the new polygamy, and according to the Unitarian Universalists for Polyamory Awareness, their relationships are at least as ethical as other marriages — gay or straight. At least as ethical? The implication, of course, is that they may be even more ethical. How so? Consider this from... Read more »

Why AT&T has yet to make me CEO

April 9, 2004 | 24 comments

AT&T fired an employee who wouldn’t promise to ‘value homosexuality,’ though the employee, a benighted Christian, did promise to not discriminate. Luckily the employee was able to salve his distress with a lawsuit. (Hat tip: Clayton Cramer) Read more »

The “War on Porn”

April 8, 2004 | 146 comments

A recent article about the Justice Department committing new resources to prosecute a “war on porn” has started lots of discussion in the blogosphere. (See here, here, here). Many people think that setting up an office with 32 prosecutors, plus assorted investigators and FBI agents, is a misguided use of resources, given current budget deficits and the ongiong war in Iraq. And this isn’t child porn we’re talking about — some of the targets of the new investigation include soft-core cable programs on HBO, and adult movies offered at hotels on pay-per-view. What should we think of this effort,... Read more »

Evil, Therapy, and Repentence

April 1, 2004 | 30 comments

I have spent the last week or so working on a child sex abuse case at work. As a result, I have been reading a large number of judicial cases describing various forms of sexual abuse of children. Read more »


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