I used to worry that my kids weren’t listening to a word of General Conference. Now I worry that my kids are listening to every single word of General Conference.
I loved GC. Tonight we’ll discuss our favorite talks for FHE and when the Ensign comes, I’ll re-read everything. There were some stellar talks (my favorites: Elder Holland, Pres. Uchtdorf, and Elder Gong).
But . . . I can also think of a handful of things that, had they been said by an average Joe in our sacrament meeting, would have warranted a Mommy Correction on the way home. Something along the lines of “I’m sure ___ meant well, but I’m afraid s/he implied _____, which isn’t true” or “_____ is entitled to her/his own opinion, but _____ is not the official position of the Church” or “I don’t think there was technically anything wrong with that, but it sure was insensitive” or “I’d just like to remind you that we don’t use the word ‘stupid’ in our home.”
But, of course, what was said in GC this weekend was not said by an average Joe. It was said by a general or auxiliary leader. Do y’all say something to your kids in a case like this? Which bothers you more: Conveying to your children that you approve/agree with everything said in GC, or conveying to your children that you think it is your role to correct the general leaders?
My goal for my children is this: that they would take the attitude that our Church is true, living, and imperfect. That the imperfections would not startle them, or even surprise them. That they would expect them, and move on. That they would doubt their doubts, and not let them stand in the way of their faith. That they would, in a nutshell, have very low expectations of the people and leaders of the Church, so they could be pleasantly surprised by outbursts of awesomeness (Holland, Uchtdorf, Gong) and shrug at the everything else (_____, ______, ______). But I’m not sure what the best road is for getting to that goal.
It sure was easier when they just screamed and no one could hear Conference.
Note: I’m not interested in debating the specific merits of ____, ____, and _____. I’m interested in the overriding principle of whether and how you discuss with your children things you hear in GC that you disagree with. If I catch them soon enough, I’ll delete comments that consider the specific speakers and/or statements that one might have objected to.