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	<title>Comments on: Educational equality between spouses:  Not a one-way street?</title>
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		<title>By: DKL</title>
		<link>http://timesandseasons.org/index.php/2007/05/educational-equality-between-spouses-not-a-one-way-street/#comment-223943</link>
		<dc:creator>DKL</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 13 May 2007 21:21:13 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>It&#039;s worth noting that in the movie &lt;i&gt;It&#039;s a Wonderful Life&lt;/i&gt;, George Bailey marries a woman (Mary Hatch, played by Donna Reed) who has a college education, though George himself never goes to college.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It&#8217;s worth noting that in the movie <i>It&#8217;s a Wonderful Life</i>, George Bailey marries a woman (Mary Hatch, played by Donna Reed) who has a college education, though George himself never goes to college.</p>
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		<title>By: Bev P</title>
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		<dc:creator>Bev P</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 11 May 2007 11:38:47 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Sorry, another BYU story. I didn&#039;t find a husband at the bachelor&#039;s level, ergo I got a master&#039;s. Didn&#039;t find one then either, but my mother said, &quot;Enough. Get a job&quot; so I did. Then, when I finally did find one, I gave my crew 17 years of staying home out of my professional career, and I completed my PhD just in time to reach retirement age. I did it just for fun [thankfully, my boss paid for it] and the privilege of having the kids refer to me just once each as Dr Mom. When their dad completed his MSc some years back, I&#039;m told [I don&#039;t remember] I made some kind of comment about having to get a PhD to restore the differential, probably just one of those smart-mouth comments you make without thinking of the potential, and I&#039;ve paid for it. But apparently Pres. Hinckley hit it on the head - some are sensitive to those differentials. But smarting under them is no guarantee of motivation to learn, maybe only to snipe. Or to flaunt an academic trophy wife.

I&#039;d like to add one other thought though: What&#039;s a relatively bright girl to do while she&#039;s working professionally, and waiting around for the equally bright and at least equally qualified no longer young single adult males, RMs, temple goers, to get their marital act together? She does an MA. And then maybe a PhD. Because it beats staying home and mourning the death of the dream. Come on guys, there are some wonderful women out there who could do with a yoked husband of some description so they can raise up children in Zion the way they&#039;d love to do!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Sorry, another BYU story. I didn&#8217;t find a husband at the bachelor&#8217;s level, ergo I got a master&#8217;s. Didn&#8217;t find one then either, but my mother said, &#8220;Enough. Get a job&#8221; so I did. Then, when I finally did find one, I gave my crew 17 years of staying home out of my professional career, and I completed my PhD just in time to reach retirement age. I did it just for fun [thankfully, my boss paid for it] and the privilege of having the kids refer to me just once each as Dr Mom. When their dad completed his MSc some years back, I&#8217;m told [I don't remember] I made some kind of comment about having to get a PhD to restore the differential, probably just one of those smart-mouth comments you make without thinking of the potential, and I&#8217;ve paid for it. But apparently Pres. Hinckley hit it on the head &#8211; some are sensitive to those differentials. But smarting under them is no guarantee of motivation to learn, maybe only to snipe. Or to flaunt an academic trophy wife.</p>
<p>I&#8217;d like to add one other thought though: What&#8217;s a relatively bright girl to do while she&#8217;s working professionally, and waiting around for the equally bright and at least equally qualified no longer young single adult males, RMs, temple goers, to get their marital act together? She does an MA. And then maybe a PhD. Because it beats staying home and mourning the death of the dream. Come on guys, there are some wonderful women out there who could do with a yoked husband of some description so they can raise up children in Zion the way they&#8217;d love to do!</p>
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		<title>By: CW</title>
		<link>http://timesandseasons.org/index.php/2007/05/educational-equality-between-spouses-not-a-one-way-street/#comment-223550</link>
		<dc:creator>CW</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 08 May 2007 19:50:28 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Starfoxy I appreciate your comment about the YW medallion VS the Eagle. In our stake they commonly announce eagles and YW medallions over the pulpit in sacrament meeting to recognize the accomplishments of our youth. I have always had this pet peeve about the bishopric member saying \&quot;a YW medallion is comparable to an eagle\&quot; as a way of indicating its significance. Young Women\&#039;s accomplishments can be significant in their own right, we don\&#039;t have to give them credibility by comparing them to things boys do. Any way one sunday I was announcing a young man who had completed his eagle, and I said with a straight face \&quot;for those of you who don\&#039;t know much about the eagle, it is basically comparable to a YW Medallion\&quot;. 

That got a good laugh from many that day because they knew I was doing a little back handed social commentary. But you are right, it is less known and doesn\&#039;t have the same universal recognition. Sorry for digressing.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Starfoxy I appreciate your comment about the YW medallion VS the Eagle. In our stake they commonly announce eagles and YW medallions over the pulpit in sacrament meeting to recognize the accomplishments of our youth. I have always had this pet peeve about the bishopric member saying \&#8221;a YW medallion is comparable to an eagle\&#8221; as a way of indicating its significance. Young Women\&#8217;s accomplishments can be significant in their own right, we don\&#8217;t have to give them credibility by comparing them to things boys do. Any way one sunday I was announcing a young man who had completed his eagle, and I said with a straight face \&#8221;for those of you who don\&#8217;t know much about the eagle, it is basically comparable to a YW Medallion\&#8221;. </p>
<p>That got a good laugh from many that day because they knew I was doing a little back handed social commentary. But you are right, it is less known and doesn\&#8217;t have the same universal recognition. Sorry for digressing.</p>
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		<title>By: Pearl</title>
		<link>http://timesandseasons.org/index.php/2007/05/educational-equality-between-spouses-not-a-one-way-street/#comment-223543</link>
		<dc:creator>Pearl</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 08 May 2007 19:02:23 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>No worries Mahana.  I was just curious to hear about the changes you referenced, since I have never attended BYU.  When I was choosing a college to attend, I was saddened by the low graduation rate of female BYU students back then (1982).  I am hoping that with the university being much more competitive these days, the students attending (both male and female) are all focused on completing their degrees.

Anyone know the current stats?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>No worries Mahana.  I was just curious to hear about the changes you referenced, since I have never attended BYU.  When I was choosing a college to attend, I was saddened by the low graduation rate of female BYU students back then (1982).  I am hoping that with the university being much more competitive these days, the students attending (both male and female) are all focused on completing their degrees.</p>
<p>Anyone know the current stats?</p>
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		<title>By: Ugly Mahana</title>
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		<dc:creator>Ugly Mahana</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 08 May 2007 17:45:47 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Pearl (#39)

Now that I look over the responses, I can&#039;t find the comment I was responding to. Hmm. That should teach me something about being particularly rude and pointed. Apologies all.</description>
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<p>Now that I look over the responses, I can&#8217;t find the comment I was responding to. Hmm. That should teach me something about being particularly rude and pointed. Apologies all.</p>
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		<title>By: Starfoxy</title>
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		<dc:creator>Starfoxy</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 08 May 2007 15:31:39 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Alison,
I don&#039;t think a diploma is the only option. Work experience, like yours, is just as valuable (probably more). The main thing I&#039;m trying to get at is simply having skills or knowledge isn&#039;t enough, one needs something to show for it that employers will recognize in order to be able to market themselves effectively.  Having a diploma, verifiable work experience, or a portfolio as proof of your skill set is very important.

For an example of what I&#039;m getting at- The YW in Excellence award represents about as much time and effort as the Eagle Scout award, they may or may not be the exact same, but they are at least comparable. Unless a potential employer is familiar with the YW program putting the YW award on a resume is pointless. For all they know you&#039;re just making things up. On the other hand just about everyone has heard of the BSA, so putting &#039;Eagle Scout&#039; on a resume is more effective.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Alison,<br />
I don&#8217;t think a diploma is the only option. Work experience, like yours, is just as valuable (probably more). The main thing I&#8217;m trying to get at is simply having skills or knowledge isn&#8217;t enough, one needs something to show for it that employers will recognize in order to be able to market themselves effectively.  Having a diploma, verifiable work experience, or a portfolio as proof of your skill set is very important.</p>
<p>For an example of what I&#8217;m getting at- The YW in Excellence award represents about as much time and effort as the Eagle Scout award, they may or may not be the exact same, but they are at least comparable. Unless a potential employer is familiar with the YW program putting the YW award on a resume is pointless. For all they know you&#8217;re just making things up. On the other hand just about everyone has heard of the BSA, so putting &#8216;Eagle Scout&#8217; on a resume is more effective.</p>
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		<title>By: Adam</title>
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		<dc:creator>Adam</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 08 May 2007 13:09:45 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>#28 - Our former stake president, while serving in that position, counseled over the pulpit that men should work outside the home so their spouses could do their work in the home. Not the other way around.

We do have a very nuanced position in the gender role issue, don&#039;t we?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>#28 &#8211; Our former stake president, while serving in that position, counseled over the pulpit that men should work outside the home so their spouses could do their work in the home. Not the other way around.</p>
<p>We do have a very nuanced position in the gender role issue, don&#8217;t we?</p>
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		<title>By: Norbert</title>
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		<dc:creator>Norbert</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 08 May 2007 09:54:54 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&#039;To be clear, Iâ€™m certainly not trying to minimize the value of formal education, but the truth is, the degrees are really only meaningful in some areas, not across the board.&#039;

True that. I have a MA in composition theory, and my wife has something equivalent to a BA in design. But she is well-known in Finland as a designer. In fact, if it weren&#039;t for my foreign hire benefits, she would make more money working than I would as a school teacher. (She&#039;d also have to work more days and hours than I do, of course.) We tend to overemphasize The Professions as the keys to success over the creative fields.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>&#8216;To be clear, Iâ€™m certainly not trying to minimize the value of formal education, but the truth is, the degrees are really only meaningful in some areas, not across the board.&#8217;</p>
<p>True that. I have a MA in composition theory, and my wife has something equivalent to a BA in design. But she is well-known in Finland as a designer. In fact, if it weren&#8217;t for my foreign hire benefits, she would make more money working than I would as a school teacher. (She&#8217;d also have to work more days and hours than I do, of course.) We tend to overemphasize The Professions as the keys to success over the creative fields.</p>
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		<title>By: Alison Moore Smith</title>
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		<dc:creator>Alison Moore Smith</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 08 May 2007 07:59:30 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>starfoxy: &lt;i&gt;Employers wonâ€™t give you a chance to prove to them that you have the skills they need, they want some kind of evidence from a reputable source in advance. Even if the diploma isnâ€™t a guarantee that youâ€™ve got the skills, it is still better than your word alone. A married couple may be equally intelligent or skilled, but if only one of them has the piece of paper to prove it then they are unequally yolked.&lt;/i&gt;

Why would the only options be &quot;your word alone&quot; or a diploma?

My first business, just a few months after having my first baby, we doing desktop publishing. I didn&#039;t have an MS in CAD. But I&#039;d worked at space utilization at BYU while in school and then created a great portfolio at home. I had more business than I could do while my baby (and later, two babies) were sleeping (which was my designated work schedule) until my husband finished grad school.

After moving to Florida, I started a niche subscription newsletter and, later, an educational mail-order catalog. When my fourth daughter was born and I was too busy to run it, I sold it to a Maryland corp. And I didn&#039;t have an MBA.

Currently I have a few things I&#039;m involved in (web services, accounting, writing. public speaking) and my degrees are the same as they were in 1987.

True, I&#039;ve always been home and my family has always been the priority, but I&#039;ve worked with clients enough to know that I could get a job without more paper on my wall.

I have friends who have done so much more than I have, in similar circumstances, that I know it&#039;s not that uncommon.

To be clear, I&#039;m certainly not trying to minimize the value of formal education, but the truth is, the degrees are really only meaningful in some areas, not across the board.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>starfoxy: <i>Employers wonâ€™t give you a chance to prove to them that you have the skills they need, they want some kind of evidence from a reputable source in advance. Even if the diploma isnâ€™t a guarantee that youâ€™ve got the skills, it is still better than your word alone. A married couple may be equally intelligent or skilled, but if only one of them has the piece of paper to prove it then they are unequally yolked.</i></p>
<p>Why would the only options be &#8220;your word alone&#8221; or a diploma?</p>
<p>My first business, just a few months after having my first baby, we doing desktop publishing. I didn&#8217;t have an MS in CAD. But I&#8217;d worked at space utilization at BYU while in school and then created a great portfolio at home. I had more business than I could do while my baby (and later, two babies) were sleeping (which was my designated work schedule) until my husband finished grad school.</p>
<p>After moving to Florida, I started a niche subscription newsletter and, later, an educational mail-order catalog. When my fourth daughter was born and I was too busy to run it, I sold it to a Maryland corp. And I didn&#8217;t have an MBA.</p>
<p>Currently I have a few things I&#8217;m involved in (web services, accounting, writing. public speaking) and my degrees are the same as they were in 1987.</p>
<p>True, I&#8217;ve always been home and my family has always been the priority, but I&#8217;ve worked with clients enough to know that I could get a job without more paper on my wall.</p>
<p>I have friends who have done so much more than I have, in similar circumstances, that I know it&#8217;s not that uncommon.</p>
<p>To be clear, I&#8217;m certainly not trying to minimize the value of formal education, but the truth is, the degrees are really only meaningful in some areas, not across the board.</p>
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		<title>By: m&#38;m</title>
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		<dc:creator>m&#38;m</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 08 May 2007 06:44:07 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>p.s. I meant around me in my ward and neighborhood. To many, I&#039;m the mom of my children and they don&#039;t know much about my life before motherhood.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>p.s. I meant around me in my ward and neighborhood. To many, I&#8217;m the mom of my children and they don&#8217;t know much about my life before motherhood.</p>
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