I’m interested in swapping the perspective of the discussion. What makes husbands happy?

On the one hand, husbands have a lot more opportunity and choice. With far fewer domestic expectations, many more career options are available. Plus our church culture is more supportive of husbands pursuing extended educations to support their career aspirations.

On the other hand, we expect husbands to pull in a “breadwinning” income. While working is optional for women, husbands can’t get out of it. Are there any men who would prefer to be stay-at-home dads? Do some men prefer to share the burden of working?

If husbands could configure something different than the traditional approach, what would it look like? Or, are they happiest with the traditional model?

It means that the privileged fail to recognize that the vast majority of those with jobs are grunge laborers. Somehow the privileged can’t seem to understand that there ain’t a whole lot of deliverance–from the domestic mundane, that is–in working on an assembly line, or flipping burgers, or mopping floors, or changing sheets, or what-have-you.

The argument against finding happiness in the more traditional marital contexts always seems to come across a bit Marie Antionettish–you know, let them find a career avenue that will bring fulfillment if they want happiness. It is a very small percentage of the work force who find fulfillment it their careers–mostly in the “upper crust.” The rest of us middle (or lower) class morons have to look for happiness elsewhere. And I’m happy to report that many succeed in finding it outside of their careers.

I can tell you that we have people that clean the toilets and quite a bit of childcare help and there are still complaints that the house is a mess.

Both of us claim to be happy though, even though we live in Sandy and neither of us is medicated.

Oh, and I earn a lot less money than my wife does.

(BYU Professor Daniel K.) Judd said recent surveys show that some LDS women report higher incidences of depression than women outside the church….

2. Too often, many of the items in Julie’s post are not discussed prior to marriage due to a lack of maturity. NOW is a good time to own up and show some maturity

3. Many women, myself included, assume that becuase something makes sense to us that it will be common sense to our spouse. For example, a bathroom in our home is only used by my husband and child. As you could imagine, it is disgusting to me. I asked how come he doesn’t clean it and his response is “it doesn’t occur to me that it needs to be cleaned”.

to the women who feel that their husband doesn’t contribute enough. MAKE A LIST (and don’t expect him to do it how you do it).

And always remember this. You picked him.

This has always made sense to me. Its all about expectations and aspirations.