Part 2: FPR on how the BYU AVP's unfettered discretion undermines academic freedom and merit hiring. Example: publish in Dialogue and you can't even get an interview. (Dave) ... See MoreSee Less
"Our society’s information environment steers the public to view conflicts as just a part of a bigger culture war, a battle of winner-takes-all in which there is only ever one right and one wrong, and where the only answer to any question is either “yes” or “no.” Such polarizing only hardens our hearts and coarsens our reason." (Julie) ... See MoreSee Less
FPR looks at BYU's Statement Against Academic Freedom. (Dave) ... See MoreSee Less
Not doctrine, not history -- just a touching story and a good seminary teacher. (Dave) ... See MoreSee Less
This is what happens when you put the Missionary Department in charge of LDS historical sites. (Dave) ... See MoreSee Less
A 4-part series on corporatism, the organizational imperative, and Correlation, by a former Ensign editor. (Ben S) http://mormonomics.blogspot.com/2015/02/the-most-powerful-idea-in-universe-part.html ... See MoreSee Less
A Chicago newspaper editor visits Temple Square. You won't believe what happened next. (Dave) http://my.chicagotribune.com/#section/-1/article/p2p-83091729/ ... See MoreSee Less
Cyclone Pam leveled Vanuatu, but all LDS missionaries now accounted for. Great photos. (Dave) ... See MoreSee Less
My summary of feedback from bishops and stake presidents: In theory, you can publicly support gay marriage and maybe even OW and keep your membership and temple recommend. Just not generally in practice. But they all affirm inerrancy of the Brethren (not a doctrine of the Church) and expect you to as well. (Dave) ... See MoreSee Less
John Dehlin's appeal to the First Presidency. (Dave) ... See MoreSee Less
At SL Trib: Gospel topics essays teach the messy part of Mormon history. And no, you can't talk to the authors. (Dave) ... See MoreSee Less
Dr. Tom Roberts publishes a letter to Christian leaders about Mormonism, encouraging dialogue and acceptance. He also suggests we Mormons get around to figuring out our doctrine. (Dave) ... See MoreSee Less
Elder Holland on Mark Twain's cats (and a few other things like religious liberty). Julie ... See MoreSee Less
Fiona Givens and Terryl Givens on doubt (and why it doesn't have to be so dangerous) at Meridian Magazine Expand. (Nathaniel) ... See MoreSee Less
The link between talents and service beautifully explained. (Julie) ... See MoreSee Less
I have been thinking about Mother’s Day for weeks. This is not normal for me, but for some reason I have felt the urge to make this year something special. But what to do? Finally, today, inspiration came.
We always make Melissa breakfast in bed on Mother’s Day. Why? Because Megan and Caitlyn love to do it, and Melissa humors them. But we won’t this year–church is at 9am, and we’re going to have an old friend camping out on the couch anyway.
She says what she really wants is a trip to a spa. I think we can swing it.
Russell, I have done that, too. And for the same reason.
I am routinely disappointed by Mother’s Day, probably because I don’t have a good sense for what the ideal Mother’s Day should be. My wife does not demand a lot from the day, but I have always wanted to overdeliver, and it (almost) never happens.
I think Mother’s Day is a day for mothers to really step up and show us what they can do–remind us why we appreciate them so much. Really knock us out with a terrific dinner, leaving the kitchen spic-and-span afterwards, etc.
I usually succeed in overdoing things- make breakfast in bed with the kids, don’t let Andrea near the kitchen, let her sleep in, and shower her with presents. Of course, I try to help her feel special all year, but especially on Mother’s Day. Which is odd, considering my attitude towards holidays. Well- she likes it so I do it because I love her.
But I beg her not to do the same for me on Father’s Day, because I really can’t stand people going out of their way for me. But it’s fun to do it for her.
My teenage son was asked to speak on Mother’s Day. His talk began something like this.
*Sixteen years ago a beautiful, loving mother gave birth to a handsome baby boy. On that same day I was also born.*
My wife gets sick of the *Perfect Mother* talks that are given every Mother’s Day. So, my son told the mothers that it’s love that makes an ordinary mother a perfect mother.
“my son told the mothers that it’s love that makes an ordinary mother a perfect mother.”
I love this. We love our children despite the dirty diapers, tantrums, and whining about homework. Most of us would never pretend our kids are perfect, but it’s understood that we still love them unconditionally. I wish no one would ever imply that mothers (or fathers, or anyone else) somehow earn their childrens’ love by never making a mistake.
I always try to encourage my family to keep the fuss at a minimum. I ask for services rather than gifts, for one thing, my kids are poor. So I ask them to help me with something or rub my feet or something.
This Sunday, my daughters and husband are going to take flowers to my mother and visit her as my gift for Mother’s Day. I am going to just rest. That’s all I want.
I really would rather skip the fuss, but this is the best compromise for us.
Last year, Kingsley posted in a comment Eliot’s “A Dedication to my Wife.” My husband made a card of it. I think it was my only “gift,” because money was tight and I didn’t really need stuff. But it was unquestionably the best Mother’s Day gift I ever received, in over 24 years of mothering.