View on Facebook
If you are in Provo on July 31st: http://www.byunewtestamentcommentary.com/annual-conference-on-july-31-2015-1-corinthians/ ... See MoreSee Less
What LDS Education Week looks like at Oxford. (Ben S)http://www.traditionofenquiry.com ... See MoreSee Less
Blogger Christian Harrison shows the patience of Job while discussing LGBT issues with a variety of enthusiastic interlocutors. (Kaimi) ... See MoreSee Less
Symposium tomorrow for "Theology and Social Issues" Seminar, 10am-5pm in Harold B. Lee Library, July 9th ... See MoreSee Less
May win an award for oddest testimony ever. (Julie) ... See MoreSee Less
July 12th Fireside with Thomas Griffith (of the D.C. Circuit) on Faith, Reason, Doubt and Testimony ... See MoreSee Less
An apologist confronts his doubts -- how Christians narrate a faith crisis. (Dave) ... See MoreSee Less
Mormons are happy. (Dave) ... See MoreSee Less
Some missions no longer require suit coats. (Dave) ... See MoreSee Less
Mormon Newsroom posts a First Presidency letter to local leaders about gay marriage, to be read in church in July. (Dave) ... See MoreSee Less
16ss reviews Elder Christofferson's counsel about supporting gay marriage. (Dave) ... See MoreSee Less
At BCC, more on the new Foundations of the Restoration manual. (Dave) ... See MoreSee Less
The Interpreter reviews the new CES manual for Foundations of the Restoration (one of the new BYU religion courses). (Dave) ... See MoreSee Less
KUTV in SLC reports on the "Boise Rescue" meeting. (Dave) ... See MoreSee Less
After three years of being hassled by Mormon trolls, CJane moves to the middle path. (Dave) ... See MoreSee Less
I have been thinking about Mother’s Day for weeks. This is not normal for me, but for some reason I have felt the urge to make this year something special. But what to do? Finally, today, inspiration came.
We always make Melissa breakfast in bed on Mother’s Day. Why? Because Megan and Caitlyn love to do it, and Melissa humors them. But we won’t this year–church is at 9am, and we’re going to have an old friend camping out on the couch anyway.
She says what she really wants is a trip to a spa. I think we can swing it.
Russell, I have done that, too. And for the same reason.
I am routinely disappointed by Mother’s Day, probably because I don’t have a good sense for what the ideal Mother’s Day should be. My wife does not demand a lot from the day, but I have always wanted to overdeliver, and it (almost) never happens.
I think Mother’s Day is a day for mothers to really step up and show us what they can do–remind us why we appreciate them so much. Really knock us out with a terrific dinner, leaving the kitchen spic-and-span afterwards, etc.
I usually succeed in overdoing things- make breakfast in bed with the kids, don’t let Andrea near the kitchen, let her sleep in, and shower her with presents. Of course, I try to help her feel special all year, but especially on Mother’s Day. Which is odd, considering my attitude towards holidays. Well- she likes it so I do it because I love her.
But I beg her not to do the same for me on Father’s Day, because I really can’t stand people going out of their way for me. But it’s fun to do it for her.
My teenage son was asked to speak on Mother’s Day. His talk began something like this.
*Sixteen years ago a beautiful, loving mother gave birth to a handsome baby boy. On that same day I was also born.*
My wife gets sick of the *Perfect Mother* talks that are given every Mother’s Day. So, my son told the mothers that it’s love that makes an ordinary mother a perfect mother.
“my son told the mothers that it’s love that makes an ordinary mother a perfect mother.”
I love this. We love our children despite the dirty diapers, tantrums, and whining about homework. Most of us would never pretend our kids are perfect, but it’s understood that we still love them unconditionally. I wish no one would ever imply that mothers (or fathers, or anyone else) somehow earn their childrens’ love by never making a mistake.
I always try to encourage my family to keep the fuss at a minimum. I ask for services rather than gifts, for one thing, my kids are poor. So I ask them to help me with something or rub my feet or something.
This Sunday, my daughters and husband are going to take flowers to my mother and visit her as my gift for Mother’s Day. I am going to just rest. That’s all I want.
I really would rather skip the fuss, but this is the best compromise for us.
Last year, Kingsley posted in a comment Eliot’s “A Dedication to my Wife.” My husband made a card of it. I think it was my only “gift,” because money was tight and I didn’t really need stuff. But it was unquestionably the best Mother’s Day gift I ever received, in over 24 years of mothering.