Read my comment #34 above and then come back here and read the rest of this comment.

I saw the guy again! He was on campus with a microphone and small amplifier singing something about “sophia” — neither the tune nor the lyrics were familiar. At any rate, he also had a sign advertising his Web site. Now you too can learn the truth of how Stephen King killed John Lennon.

To each their own. But if my wife were to die (I hope she outlives me because I do not deal with death too well) I would probably re-marry. And depending on my age at the time I might even start a new family (I really detest men who, maybe when they are in their late 40s or early 50s, marry someone 20 years younger and insist that the woman agree never to have any children). If I were 45 or 50 I’d certainly date younger women (late 20s or so). Like I said earlier my grandfather remarried at 63 and started a family. I’m sure his 3 children from that family and their grandkids are better off for his wife being open to marriage to a man considerably older than her.

So you can have a bitter attitude, but you might wind up like one of my wife’s friends who has been on the search for a long time and now has passed 40 with no husband and no children. I set her up with a guy from one of my previous wards and they established a great on-line relationship (and she knew he was 15 years older). Problem was that when she met him he reminded her in looks and expressions of her father and because she has never resolved issues with her father that was the end of the relationship. Fine, her loss. She should realize that whether you are into Freud, or social learning theory, you develop your attitudes about your future mate based on your ideal of the opposite sex parent when you are younger. So on the emotional and intellectual level she was open to this guy, but when she met him the core conflicts left unresolved torpedoed the relationship.

As for problems with health, don’t blame the messanger for the message. I am not responsible for how humans are designed.